12 things women don't know about men

1. Getting angry at us for not reading your mind is like getting angry at yourself for not being able to fly. It's not just futile, it's physically impossible.

2. Yes, we do think Jessica Alba is hot. Sometimes we're even dumb enough to admit it.

3. Don't ask us to understand your shoe fetish. Asking us to respect it is even sort of pushing it.

4. You do look good without makeup, just not as good as you look with it.

5. Ever notice how we don't fight with our male friends? That's why we get so frustrated when we fight with you.

6. You care what you're wearing infinitely more than we do. In fact, if you're naked when you open the front door, you won't hear an argument from us.

7. You don't like to get hit on in public, you don't want to date online and you don't want to be set up on blind dates. Tell us if sending messenger pigeons is an appropriate way of courting. Because if it is, we're all over it.

8.
There should a statute of limitations on stupid things that we said that can come back to haunt us
There should a statute of limitations on stupid things that we said that can come back to haunt us. I propose 24 hours.

9. Cooking dinner for a man is like buying flowers for a woman, except it takes a lot more time, effort and thought for you to do it. Thanks. We appreciate it.

10. We actually like your girly pet-names for us, but please, not in front of the guys!

11. Just because we like looking at the women in Maxim doesn't mean we want to actually converse with the women in Maxim. Not for long, anyway.

12. Your nice guy friends are the most reliable source for telling you if your new boyfriend's a jerk. And he probably is. (By the way, you might want to consider marrying that nice guy who's giving you advice about the jerk.)

"5 myths preventing men from attracting women"

Myth #1: Being an Attractive Man Is Always About Appealing to What Women Say They Want.
If you are one of those vehement supporters of this myth, you should get a noose and hang yourself – you'll be better off.
Trying to get a woman to like you by attempting to live up to her ideal preferences in a man is a one way ticket to transforming your ego into a proverbial punching bag. Women prefer tall dark handsome rich men, packing dogs with garden hose length and telephone pole girth.
Oh, furthermore, if you don't want to fall short of their expectations you better be lumbered with chiseled abs and a copious bubble butt. If your rump isn't up to par, you could always get silicon butt cheek implants. But forewarning: Your black-and-blue rear will be so sore that you won't be able to sit down for a month.
As those of you know who have been reading my newsletters and have read my book: Attraction is not about what a woman says she wants. If attraction was about what women say they prefer, then I wouldn't know short, bald, fat, and broke guys experiencing massive success with women. But I do.
Attraction, contrary to this, is about you creating the emotion inside women of wanting, chasing, and reaching for more of you. Although my short, bald, fat and broke Casanova buddies don't fill the quota of the "ideal man," they do manage to generate the emotion inside women of wanting, chasing, and reaching for more of them. And this, my friend, is why they are massively successful with women.
The art of creating this emotion in women is what I call PRIZING. My book is chockfull of different techniques for PRIZING women, some of which are Open Loops, Tension Loops, Challenging & Qualifying, and Meta-Frames.
One of the best things you can do to set the groundwork for PRIZING women is to make them strive to fill the quota of your ideal female.
So, when you're out with a woman, don't behave like a spineless little worm, asking her questions such as: "How am I doing with you?" Instead, when she behaves in ways that go against your standards and expectations of women, let her know that she is losing points with you – and losing points quickly!
Myth #2: If a Woman Is of Higher Value Than You, She Is Not Allowed to Be Attracted to You.
This one actually rings some truth. Let me explain.
If you see a woman and immediately, in your mind, consecrate her as a Goddess amongst Goddesses you must bow down to, you are figuratively butt ramming yourself, because you are setting the frame that she is the Prize, not you. As those of you who have read my book know, women do not feel attraction for men who are not the PRIZE.
It is fine to view a woman you have just met as a Goddess amongst Goddesses, as long as you perceive yourself as a God amongst Gods and abstain from bowing down to her.
What is the lesson to be learned? Objective value doesn't exist, only perceived value does.
Although women are usually not attracted to men of lesser value than themselves, you can do a lot to increase your value.
Whenever interacting with a woman, a Meta-Frame – or underlying meaning – is established, determining your value in relation to hers. When you allow a woman's perceived value to intimidate you, or make you feel of lesser value than her, you are unknowingly establishing the Meta-Frame that she is the PRIZE, not you.
So the key is to stop fretting about some aspect of her being of higher value than some aspect of you, plundering you of your self-esteem. When interacting with a woman, if you ever feel ugly to her beauty or pedestrian to her sophistication or like a retarded little spaz to her sense of cool...or whatever, change your focus of attention. See the bigger picture.
Realize that when first meeting a woman we paint a picture in our mind of who we think she is, based on a few aspects we observe about her. This picture usually ends up being way off base. Learn to take control of your perceptions:
If you feel intimidated by her beauty, imagine what she looks like in the morning without her makeup; if her sophistication renders you tongue-tied, consider that she is putting on an act to impress you; if you start worrying about how much older you are than her, imagine how much worse she's going to look when she's your age... and so on.
Myth #3: If You Want to Attract Women, You Have to Act Like You Enjoy and Are Interested in the Things That They Enjoy.
This pathetic little myth is really a product of the collective dating advice for men in self-help books for sale at a bookstore near you, touting men to develop the personality of a compliant woman. This myth couldn't be further from the truth. Women are attracted to men, not little puppy dogs.
Hypothetically speaking, let's say you are dating a girl who has a thing for musical kitsch: think Britney Spears or Christina Aguilera. You, however, despise this kind of music and would prefer the sound of nails on a chalkboard to this crap. Although counterintuitive, pretending to like something that you don't genuinely like is very unattractive to women.
Likewise, having a willingness to express what you hate can redound in women finding you very attractive.
Exception, of course, do exist. For example, specific activities have been deemed by our culture as having a high social value. You might, for example, prefer reading comic books over participating in these activities. There could be consequences, however, to not participating in them. In one of my upcoming products, I touch on these activities. I will probably publish a newsletter in the near future on what these activities are.
I am not suggesting that you jettison everything a woman is into that you are not. Doing this will turn you into a creepy control freak and you will probably end up becoming a very unhappy, boring person.
Only being around people who have the same interests and tastes as you, will stifle your growth as a human being – diversity is good. I personally love to be around people that introduce me to things I don't know a lot about. This is how I develop new interests and grow as a human being.
My gripe is with men faking an interest in something as a means to get someone to like them. Doing this is really handing your balls over on a platter to the other person. Don't do this. Don't give away your power. It is one of the most unattractive qualities you can possess.
Myth #4: Women Don't Like Sex and Will Only Sleep with You After You Go Through Great Lengths Courting Them.
This one really makes my skin crawl. My life experience keeps reaffirming that beyond the shadow of a doubt this myth doesn't even contain a smattering of truth. Women love sex and can be as aggressive as men when it come to obtaining it.
If you doubt this, make some female friends who are not interested in you. That way they won't be concerned with how you judge them, allowing them to shed their ladylike pretenses and talk candidly about their sexuality.
Warning: This lurid peek into the female sexual psyche might frighten you – it isn't for the faint of heart. What you will find is that women are as sexual as men... if not more. Also, I wouldn't be surprised if these women told you about how much fun quickies, one-night-stands, and meaningless sex can be.
Many women hold off on sleeping with men because they lest being judged as sluts. It can be quite powerful to tease women about acting sexually forward or aggressive towards you. Conveying to a woman you've just met your genuine concern about her being a slut, however, will ensue in a very lonely night.
Most men I know who are unbelievable at quickly getting women into bed have a knack for making women feel comfortable expressing their sexual habits and promiscuity (Note: This is, of course, in the context of women you've just met. You probably wouldn't want to encourage this kind of promiscuity in your wife or girlfriend).
Myth #5: If You Aren't Currently Good with Women You Probably Aren't Going to Get Any Better.
Simply not true. I don't believe this myth for a second.
Over the years I have seen many hopeless sad-sack losers who no one believed in, transform themselves into some of the most skilled ladies men I have ever seen. In many cases these guys ended up more skilled with women than natural ladies men. This is probably because they had a burning desire to get a foothold on this area of their life.
This self sabotaging myth is disseminated primarily by shrinks, guys who've had little success with women, and ladies men.
I know a few guys who had their psychiatrists tell them that if they weren't good with women, they probably weren't going to get any better. And that they would be better off compromising by settling for a woman they weren't really attracted to. One of these guys stopped seeing his therapist and is now doing fantastic with women. He gets a gold star for firing the bastard.
Some guys down on their success with women will try to feed you all sorts of negative rhetoric, such as: "if you are not already successful with women, you are not going to get any better." These guys will infect your mind. Avoid them like the plague.
Some ladies men will try to mystify their abilities by making you think that they are blessed with some unattainable God-given talent. Often times this is an attempt to exalt their abilities at the expense of your self-esteem. Don't take that crap. You're better than that.
All of the disseminators of this myth are thought viruses that will infect your mind, sabotaging your self-esteem and future opportunities with women. If you currently have any of these people in your life, KICK 'EM TO THE CURB.
It is an understatement to say that I believe in you; I am convinced that you can succeed with women.
I have met and taught men of all walks of life who have turned their lives around with women. No matter what your current level of success with women is, I know you strive to get to a higher level. Otherwise, you wouldn't be reading this. I know you are capable of achieving your goals with women and I am going to help you get there.
And if you haven't already picked up a copy of my book, do so. It's not written for losers looking to cope with their unfortunate situation. It's written for winners: People who are ready to take the bull by the horns and start achieving and living the success they dream about. At the end of the day, $39.95 is a small price to pay to be fully equipped with the tools you need to start experiencing massive success with women. So if you haven't already picked up my book, do so now.

healthy parenting

Poor Sleeping Habits Hurt Kids at School
A Bad Night's Sleep Affects Children's Academic Performance
WebMD Medical News
Reviewed by Louise Chang, MD
Sept. 23, 2005 -- A major problem behind poor performance at school may lie in the bedroom rather than in the classroom.
New research suggests that poor sleeping habits and disturbed sleep can negatively affect children's thinking skills and academic performance and should be considered when poor student performance becomes an issue.
But researchers say many of the common causes of disturbed sleep, such as sleep-disordered breathing, are reversible, and studies show that treatment can correct the problem and help children behave and perform better at school.
Children's Sleep Should Be Considered at School
Researchers say most children need about nine hours of sleep a night to perform at optimum levels. But many children fail to get the recommended amount of sleep due to their family's schedule, work, early school start times, and childhood sleep disorders.
In the study, researchers reviewed 21 studies on children's sleep and academic performance. They found that poor sleep quality, erratic sleeping schedules, and late bedtimes and early rise times are associated with impaired academic performance among children from middle school through college years.
They say the results, which appear in the September issue of the Journal of School Health, suggest that poor sleep should be considered as a contributing factor to poor student performance.
Better Sleep Improves Academic Performance
"These children and their families should be asked about regularity and duration of sleep, bedtime resistance, sleep onset delay, night-wakings, sleep-disordered breathing, and increased day-time sleepiness," write researcher Howard Taras, MD, of the University of California, San Diego, and colleagues.
"In many cases, when disordered breathing at night is the cause, intervention may not only improve sleep, but improve academic performance as well," says Taras in a news release.
For example, several studies showed that children with disrupted sleep from sleep-disordered breathing showed improvement in their performance at school and their behavior after surgical treatment.

men'sportal

Have you ever been played with in a relationship? Men often view playing games as a misleading component of relationship that that one doesn’t discriminate lightly. Actually that’s mostly true if you’re in an early phase of relationship, still undecided about it’s seriousness. Some women would play games sending off misleading and conflicting signals.
If a woman you’re attracted to mislead you in an unscrupulous way
If a woman realizes that you are much more interested and crushed into her than she’s into you she can be tempted to take advantage of the situation.
Women and men both sometimes use each other. Facing a situation a woman you’re attracted to mislead you in an unscrupulous way, playing game, what would you do?
Accept it as deliberate manipulation genuinely common behavior in early stage of relationship, or breakup early and search for another partner?
Examine this list and see if you think you have all the essential skills to resolve this situation:
Control strong compulsion to view the loved one as an ideal partner
Understand mixed messages from your female partner attributed to game playing manners
Deal with fact that women are picky toward men giving them a trial period
So, let's evaluate all-important steps one by one!
Love commands compulsion to view the loved one as an ideal partner
When someone has feelings for another, there is a strong compulsion to view the loved one as having the same kind of feelings. However, the reality revealing her true character and personality traits becomes obvious much alter, sometimes when you’re deeply tightened to a woman.
When they act as if they hurt partner’s feeling and dignity, men tend attribute it to game playing. Or is it just the frustration at not having our subjective feelings fulfilled?
Mixed messages from your female partner attributed to game playing manners
If a man gets mixed messages from their female partner, he often attributes it to game playing behavior. Now there arises very important question: are they being deliberately manipulative or cruel? Or are you seeing the outward manifestation of indecision, and confusion as game playing?
From your standpoint you should ask yourself: has your indecision or ambivalence in a relationship ever been perceived as manipulative behavior from your partner? If you have had failed relationships I’d expect that there would be somebody who would claim that you have been playing games. So don’t be too hard on judging your partner.
Men would make up his mind immediately regarding commitment to a woman
In typical relationships women take longer to decide then men do. It’s common that a guy fallen in love, usually makes up his mind if not immediately, very quickly regarding commitment to a woman.
So if a man were getting attraction signs from someone he wants to have a long relationship with, he would easily neglect all warning signs. Not everybody goes into a relationship with a checklist.
Women are picky toward men giving them a trial period
Bottom line: Women are pickier and will often give the guy a trial period if they think he may be a good match. Once that trial period is over usually the guy thinks he is already accepted. But in reality he was "still" being evaluated and if a woman decides you are not someone she really want to date she might turn to playing games with you.
For more tips about reading hidden signs of ambivalence and, attraction signs from a woman you want to have a long relationship with, refer to the e books below.
Get An Inside Look at What You Will Learn:
How to control strong compulsion to view the loved one as an ideal partner?
Understand mixed messages from your female partner attributed to game playing.
How to deal with fact that women are picky toward men giving them a trial period

1o tips to a happy marriage

1.Instead of trying to change something, he or she does - change you! Far too often, people get married with the belief they can simply change the person they married, molding him or her into the "perfect" mate. Instead, you need to accept your mate for the person he/she is. If a behavior needs to be changed, then provide support and encouragement. For example, if your husband complains about not having clean clothes, rather than nag at him, show him how to launder his shirts, jeans, or whatever it is he needs.
2.Communication is a key ingredient to any successful marriage. That means talking through situations rather than bottling up or yelling. By showing respect, you can work together as a couple should. With this, the two of you can talk to understand the other person's side better.
3.Keep intimacy as a part of the marriage. Remember, this person is the one you love, the one you want to share your life with, which means letting go of inhibitions. Intimacy is an excellent way to stay close, doing wonders for any marriage.
4.Accept the flaws in your spouse. Since no one is perfect, you want to learn to appreciate the differences between the two of you. If your husband wakes up with bad hair or your wife is grumpy, love him/her, in spite of the flaws.
5.Learn to ignore the small stuff. Every marriage faces challenges, some big and some small. Remind yourself that life is precious and short. Therefore, focus on the larger battles, working through them as a team while letting go of the incidentals that in the big scheme of things does not matter.
6.Make sure you choose your battles wisely. If you are going to pick something apart, make sure it really matters. Unfortunately, unresolved arguments are a big issue in marriages, often leading to divorce. Therefore, unless the issue is something significant, learn to let some things roll off your back.
7.Time for friends is also crucial. Once every other week, you should both take one day or evening to spend time apart and with same-sex friends. This will help you maintain your own identity and appreciate the time you have with your spouse.
8.Never take your spouse for granted. Again, life is too precious. Instead, find things that your partner does well or things that please you and let him/her know. If your husband is outside working on the car, take time to bring him a cold glass of tea or lemonade...just because. If your wife has been home all day with the children, hire a babysitter and surprise her with a dinner out.
9.Date...just because you are now legally married, you should not stop dating. Every Friday or Saturday night, even if you have children, make a date. This could be something as simple as bowling and beer or a romantic dinner and concert. The activity is not important, just that you get time for just the two of you.
10.Be forgiving with your partner. You will be faced with tough times and you have a choice of forgiving him/her when a mistake happens or carrying it in the marriage. Obviously, if you do not forgive, the marriage will suffer. Therefore, if resolution is found, swallow your pride and forgive your mate, letting the new day be another beginning.
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i love you lash

Your fingers curl up tight to make a fistYour lips purse up as to make a kissYour eyes so bright, joy is all they bringYour presence would cause angels to sing
Your first day filled and broke my heartFor I knew then that we would be apartThere is nothing more important to meThen giving you my love for all eternity

angels love

ANGEL AND HER LOVER
The lover sleeps and amid his dreams His angel comes on sunlit beams. To waken him with kisses sweet,
For her love for him is oh so deep. She wakes him with her caresses light Upon his skin and smiles so bright. And in her eyes, he sees the love She feels for him neath stars above. He comes to her to gently place, Kisses upon her neck and face. To caress her body and touch her soul. For together two become a whole. The love they make is deep and true And in this embrace their love renew. When all is done and all's been said, Upon her breasts he rests his head. And hears her heart beat for him alone. A greater love, he's never known.

my insights

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Real life sex
Sex always looks mind-blowing in the movies, but does it really matter if your bedroom reality is totally different?
If, like many people, you got most of your sex education from porn sites or the cinema, you might be wondering why your real love life doesn't match up.
But don't start feeling bitterly disappointed, or tell your partner that they're rubbish because they don't know how to 'do it' properly. To put it bluntly, you might be having a problem telling the difference between red light and real life.
Let's start with the storylines for fictional sex. Porn movies are happy to show you horny housewives dragging any old plumber, milkman or pizza delivery boy straight in off the doorstep for a mind-blowing shag. In everyday life, women just don't do stuff like that, in case the complete stranger is some dangerous psycho or (more likely) plug-ugly, pimply, and inexperienced.
Bodies are another thing. Your average male has a lardy catering-pack rather than a six-pack on his belly, and doesn't tend to be covered in fake tan and baby oil when he whips his kit off. Real women tend to be OK about this. And as for those fourteen inch erections, let me whisper this, some of them are fakes so don't worry too much guys. Oh, and a woman's nipples are not supposed to point directly upwards at the ceiling like missiles if she's lying on her back. Naturally curvy females have cellulite too, and it isn't some rare disease.
Cinema sex is always so nicely choreographed. Never any embarrassing fumbling, tripping over half-removed knickers, squelching noises, knobs slipping out unexpectedly, fits of giggles, or fanny farts. Or people saying: "Oops! Sorry!" or: "Up a bit, left a bit". The script just goes off into this 'perfect' sequence, with telepathic partners who both know exactly what to do, and when to do it. In reality, if you don't communicate, your love life tends to go down the pan very fast.
Safer sex? Even asking if she's on the pill? Nope, they just get straight down to getting jiggy. Mr Porn Star can bang away for hours at a time, and Ms Porn Star reaches a climax after zero foreplay and a mere sixty seconds of pushing and shoving, and she screams a lot. Not bad for two people who only met for the first time five minutes earlier.
Romantic movies are even worse, and always seem to show the beautiful couple having simultaneous orgasms, gazing tenderly into each other's eyes. Aaah, how sweet. Pass the bucket. When it comes to love and sex this situation is as rare as rocking horse poo, but who hasn't worried about their timing being less than perfect?
So don't worry if the fact doesn't match up to the glossy fantasy. Relax, write your own script.

An Ode to My Wife If I could just turn back the time
To when I heard you say,
That I could be your shining prince
And all the dragons slay,
I'd build a castle on the hill
So all the world could see,
The lovely princess that I chose,
To live and die with me.
If I could just turn back the time
And start my life anew,
I'd plant some roses near the paths
That I have led you through:
There'd be no thorns to pierce your heart,
No tears to dim your eyes,
I'd leave no stones to bruise your feet,
there'd be no sad goodbyes.
But Father Time will not turn back
The hours that passed away.
I can't remove the thorns and rocks
From all those past gone days;
I cannot live my life again
But dragons I would slay,
If I could be your shining prince
For only one more day.